Sunday, November 29, 2020

Elephant, July 13 2020

HOW DO YOU EAT AN ELEPHANT?

Surprise on Monday,
chewing glass and spitting blood
into the trash can.
Surprise, it’s not construction
but a small brown pony
looking like a stuffed toy,
broken, bloated in the sun,
at the edge of the front loader.
About to be cleared away
from drivers in metal cars
who don’t know if Amish children
in cobalt blue and coral
were cleared away earlier.

We drive on.
Hot leather bites bare legs
on the car seat.
Summer sets in, and sinks its teeth.

We remember the days of grief,
passions congealed, but reversible
by new offense, by fresh blood.
By the next evidence
of injustice.

There never was an innocent time
in our remembrance. Gardens are always
eager with their weeds. And the lettuce bolts
too soon. We look back and ask
whether we did anything good, or only made ourselves
impatient, and older. Hair unkempt, and pimples
in obvious places.

ONE BITE AT A TIME.

Devilish nymphs of lantern flies
suck the stems of anything green.
We try to smash them. We embarrass ourselves
in the attempt. One in four is too slow,
so we keep trying.

We chew the broken glass
mixed in the jar of salsa.
We spit beet juice and blood
into the porcelain sink.

We worry about our insides,
waiting to see what the damage will be
in the end of things.

There never was an innocent time
since we drew breath. It is almost
as if we asked for this. Building our webs
so slyly we forget which threads
are viscous. Prey to our own devices.
Shocked at the harm we do,
when all we’ve done is live
- like everyone else -
we use phones,
we drive cars.
Children shouldn’t be
on the highway with horses.
It really is a shame.

But this is what you get.
No use pretending
it’s the old days.

A moment of silence
to think about your feed,
and move on.
Pretty soon the elephants
will be extinct anyway;
all these rescues are corrupt.

Be glad you lived
in a day when you could witness greatness,
visit the zoo, breathe.
The water in a few places was still clean
enough to swim in, to feel light.

Frame this vista
and keep it for yourself,
to look at
and feel lonely in later,
when you forget the sticky crowds
and only see the blue, those hills,
not in memory, but in pixels.

Someone someday will earn your trust,
and you will show them your ivory tusk,
purchased at a steep price on the black market.
An investment,
because someday the elephants will all be extinct
and someone will need proof
they existed.

Damnation, July 7 2020

It ought to bother me. 

And I believe it's true, but I believe it like a child confessing to a lie - the admission will destroy me, and reveal a whole mess of consequences, and make me cry. 

"There is more beauty in truth, even if it is dreadful beauty." (Steinbeck)

You came to save. Please save. 

Woman Builds Her House, July 2 2020

Please fill him with hope and strength, wisdom and confidence, peace and joy, wherever he is. Help us find each other, and recognize each other, and keep our hearts, eyes, and hands open. 

Lord, I want a family. And I want to make a home, and share it. I want to make music, and dinner, and love. I want to commit to a place and its people. I want to hike the Appalachian Trail, and see the Grand Canyon, and read my favorite books aloud. I want to pick up hitchhikers. I want to plant gardens and share what they produce. I want to babysit and run errands and make care packages, and go on retreats, and create, and create retreats for others. 

I want my body to be home. For You, always. And for a man, and for little ones. I want to accept and enjoy every change it takes on. I want to learn new languages, and re-learn old languages, like the language of music, and of touch. I want to learn how to really pray, and intercede, and speak up, and listen. 

Sister Prayer, June 28 2020

Quiet the voices. Silence the lies. Speak and be heard. 

We desire You. We know we were made for You, and nothing else can satisfy. Restore to us the joy of Your salvation. Give us concrete ways to work and grow and love others well. 

Help us to be faithful, even when others are flaky. Help us to trust Your faithfulness, even when we fail. Remind us that we have nothing to prove to anyone, that we are free and covered in Your blood, and belong to You. 

Help us to offer our whole selves to You, and all we have, and trust You to give us only more of Yourself, our true good, even in suffering. 

Let us be women of dignity, strength, peace. 

Sunday, September 6, 2020

What Would I Wish, May 29 2020

"True life is lived when tiny changes occur." (Tolstoy).

I am living true life. 


Please help me pray. Please help me love. Please use me only for good. 

Please give me ways to stand up for what is right. Thinking about Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd, and so so so so many others. What if one day it is my son? What would I wish I had been saying and doing now?



Sunday, August 9, 2020

The Day You Just Wasted - May 25 2020

When one thing ends, another starts. This is my whole future. Whatever tomorrow is supposed to be, please help me live it and not be anxious, ashamed for taking today slow or for any other reason. You have given me so much. 

"The day you just wasted is the day that someone who died yesterday wanted so badly to have."

This scares me, and it doesn't take You into account, but the truth in it should galvanize me. This is my one life. Will I live it to be sexy? To get whatever I want next? For a good reputation? 

Will I push hard because I'm afraid to stop? Will I be too afraid of failure or mistakes to push hard? Will I always be comparing? 

Free me, please, Lord Jesus!

Help me to learn what this time should be. To use whatever I have to worship You. Thank You, thank You, for never giving up on me and for all the ways You get my attention. And for correcting me, and healing me, and wounding me. 

Sweet Spot, May 23 2020

I'm savoring this sweet spot. It's how I feel about this time, in general. The last week has been pretty sweet. There's a kind of safety in unknowing - we can't do much, can't make any plans. So here we are. Reading, eating, gardening, painting, having phone calls, cooking, sleeping, watching K-dramas. Our troubles are fairly small. Most of my grievances are minor and petty. I have so much to be thankful for. Help me keep my hands open, live this time fully, and enter the next season with courage, sobriety, and hope. 

Sunday, June 21, 2020

Bare Minimum, May 2020

It's easy to blame myself. And then exonerate myself. And return with, "You just don't want to acknowledge your laziness and lack of love. You've basically done the bare minimum as a friend".

I've tried to be encouraging, but have I meant what I said? How often have I shaken my head inwardly,  "Can't X just get over XXX?"
I have been relieved at our distance. I have been quick to think "not my problem". I do need to have boundaries, I'm no one's savior. Yet, is this love?
Is this how Jesus would see the sufferings, the sensitivities, the illnesses of others?
Please help, Lord. Show me what is true, and help me to accept it. 

Listless, May 8 2020

Dear Jesus, please help me. I feel very gray and stupid. Wanting things inordinately. Being horribly careless about other things and people.

I want to be able to shop at BB's and thrift stores and to borrow movies from the library. I want to swing dance and contra dance, and sing at church, and hold babies, and pet dogs. And I want to play music with friends.

I don't want to talk on the phone. And I'm itchy to check messages, but at the same time I don't want to reply to anything. And my food feels tiresome and monotonous. And my work feels the same. I don't feel much need for money, although I guess I'd rather make it than not.

It's cold and damp outside. I am such a spoiled, ignoble humbug. Please. Help.
Please stir me up to love again. Help me do the next little thing attentively, willingly, obediently, joyfully.

The Most Pathetic Love, May 1 2020

I'm in another spike of magnetism. It might be hormonal. But that's boring. I do need hope for  a little  romance in my life. And to not always look at it through snide, self-critical, self-conscious eyes. That's the most pathetic thing of all, and shows a weak affected sort of love, that can't stand to seem ridiculous. Please help me have a firm, bold, self-forgetful love. And to have hope that I can be loved that way, in return. 

Few and Far Between, April 26, 2020

How strange it is to find myself at a place of ill preparation and low motivation for everything I've really wanted to do. For marriage and motherhood. Adoption. For a career in art. Even for sustained, supportive, close friendship.

Is this what growing up is like? Discovering everything you want is hard, and you may not even like it, and the days your choice and your passion coincide are few and far between? I hope not. 

Saturday, May 30, 2020

For Bread, Confidently, April 25 2020

Please cleanse me of my unholy ambitions and my fear of man. Of my wish to perfect myself. Please make me willing to ask for help and forgiveness. And for bread, confidently.


So Predictable, April 25 2020

Please help. So irritable. Not very eager or trusting of truth and goodness. Not very teachable.

Recalcitrance, sloth. Rebellion, which is so predictable. 

Limitations, April 21 2020

Please help me not to compare, not to complain, not to become fearful that the best years of my life are over, or that I've become less useful to You. Help me to use what You've given me, and trust You in my limitations and circumstances. 

Adaptable, April 19 2020

Relationships are so hard. I feel less and less competent to do them well, the older I get. I feel so provincial now. And like a sensitive houseplant who can't be moved, and that scares me. I want to be whole and flexible, and able to adapt. 

Well-Meaning Christian Ladies, April 18 2020

We well-meaning Christian ladies can really put our feet in our mouths. Can do such damnable harm even while we try to do good. God help us.
I know rebellion is not the answer, but I cannot live for any other human's conscience or approval. Help me. 

It is Enough for Me to Rest in You, April 5 2020

Feeling somewhat forgotten. Or in danger of it.

Imagining myself writing and recording really beautiful heart-wrenching music. Why? For Your glory? For healing people? No. So I would get attention.

Please please help me out of my stupidity and egoism.
Will I be alright? Will You make beauty through me? Will I love and be loved?
A resounding YES. So take a chill pill, chicken.

And today, help me do and think and feel whatever is right. Help me rest. Help me dwell in You, in truth, in peace. There is another level of slowing down I hardly ever reach, but which is real worship. You are enough. It is enough for me to rest in You. 

Wednesday, April 15, 2020

One Salvation, April 4 2020

My one salvation is You.
Not work, or food, or sleep, or emotion. Not my own cunning. I certainly feel the tug to be very savvy and impressive, these days. To control anything I can lay my hands on. Tomorrow is the Sabbath. Please let me swallow all Your rain. And receive Your discipline, as well as Your abundant love. 

Thursday, April 9, 2020

Quarantine Day 11, March 26 2020

Please help us grieve, and see You at work even in the catastrophe of everything. Seemingly everything. All shall be well. Lord, all is not well. And that is not Scripture, and it makes me mad. Children are suffering. PEOPLE ARE DYING WITHOUT YOU. And without any loved ones near. Sometimes, alone. Please please intercede for these people. Please speak to them, call them to You. Open their eyes and minds and hearts. And make Your truth known through so much tragedy. Help people to proclaim the Gospel, everywhere and in every way possible.

Our hope is not in our stash of supplies, our hospitals, our neighbors, our money. It can't be. We have no hope but You. And You are all we need. Doggedly, angrily, and sometimes so peacefully I believe. Please fill us with Your Spirit. Please make Your Word come alive, go forth, bear fruit.

You know what fear and isolation do to people. Please keep us connected.
Help parents with kids right now. Help couples. Help them make schedules. Help them talk. Help them pray. Help them read aloud. Help them exercise together. Help them laugh until they roll. Help hold each other and cry. Help them make beautiful and useful and delicious things. Help them make music.

You made this day. Help me rejoice. 

Tuesday, April 7, 2020

Quarantine Day 7, March 22 2020

Lord, the miracles You have done are so wild. I wonder how often we pray for things that are too little? As if we doubt You? I guess it is not a matter of politeness, not to be "too greedy". We want You to display Your power. We want You to get the world's attention. Bring leaders to Yourself. Heads of countries. Heads of families. Whole families. Whole communities. Blaze through China. Proclaim truth. Work miracles - especially the miracle of repentance. Revive us. Shake us, as You are shaking us, out of our complacency.

Restore broken relationships. Make marriages whole. And people who haven't talked to each other in years - break down pride and fear and mistrust enough for forgiveness and grace to flow in. Protect the vulnerable from those who would prey on them, take advantage of them in this time. Show me what I am supposed to do. Show me how to LOVE. 

Saturday, April 4, 2020

A Few Days Into Quarantine, March 16 2020

It's quite strange to think about everything that has happened in the last week - so fast. A week ago R told me she might need to cancel our trip because of the coronavirus, and it felt a bit extreme to me. Little did I know that 1 week later, the president would discourage gatherings of more than 10 people, and all nonessential travel. Reality has struck fast. Even last Wednesday, my birthday, it felt like the changes would be gradual and somewhat ignorable - not much had changed for anyone in my circles, except virtual classes, a couple of cancelled events. Now it seems like we're perilously close to sheltering in place.

I used to imagine what it would have been like to live during WWII, to plant a victory garden, to rely on neighbors, to scrimp and save, to practice blackouts, to volunteer. For everyone to be united against a common threat and need to be sacrificial and courageous. It feels like this is the event, the moment. More than 9/11, in some ways, although that certainly brought a surge of solidarity and sobriety. Patriotism, and return to good essentials. It feels like this is the event of my lifetime, but it's not one I ever expected to encounter. I can't see COVID-19. I can't reform it or forgive it or conscientiously object. I can't gather friends around, or give lots of hugs - and that's very strange. It's difficult, even, to "help" others tangibly - you might unintentionally spread the disease. I'm self quarantined right now, which I didn't realize until Dad made it clear yesterday. I feel a bit useless, but not completely. Mostly I feel upbeat; I've been answering messages and texts, exchanging videos and pictures. I've mostly been enjoying the time with Mom and Dad. But nearly everything planned into the next two months feels jeopardized, and probably EVERYTHING in the next two weeks is out of the question. I find myself thinking ridiculous things: "How would I date someone?" "This is my golden opportunity to try homemade shampoo and eat lots of garlic!" "Will I be able to finish my taxes?" "What if my computer dies in the next two weeks?" "Finally, I can READ and PAINT!" "Are we going to run out of toilet paper?"

We're currently not about to run out of food. Mom and Dad bought so much on Saturday, and I think we both had more tucked away than we realized. To fit things in the fridge, we took out mason jars clogging the back, 8-10 jars of old frosting, chicken stock, and bacon grease. Terrible! And rewarding. Mom is cooking for all of us, since I chipped in with cash.

We watched Episode 1 of "Babies" on Netflix. So good to see babies at a time like this, a time that feels dystopic. Yet so ripe for goodness. Save us. Make Yourself known. Bring us to You, no shortcuts, no diversions. Straight to You. Prove who is in control.

Give Your people wisdom, courage, love. Faith and hope. Great peace. Staggering generosity. Gentleness. Keep justice. Do not let evil take advantage of vulnerability, panic, fear. Fight for us. For what is eternal in us, especially. And don't let me give way to worry, or self-absorption, or frittered distraction. This should be a time of great focus and intimacy with You. A time when I can see You and hear You and feel You. Please deliver babies safely into this world. Please protect people from fear when they need medical attention. Please fortify medical personnel, protect them. Succour them. Please save people from addictions and escapism right now. Help us cope. Give our hands good work to do. Give us great love. Keep us singing, and even when we must grieve, let us grieve what is real and matters, not the loss of our illusions and pride. Humble us, make us grateful. Let no one be forgotten, alone.


Monday, March 30, 2020

Loving is Usually, March 10 2020

But loving is not usually romantic. It is usually real, often uncomfortable, frequently inconvenient, occasionally mortifying.

It means loving the people it is messy, unimpressive, or painful to love. The people who will not make me look better or realize my potential. And it means not using them.

Humble me. Please do it gently, but do it.


The House, February 25 2020

The house

in Crescent City sold.

Money from the fish's

mouth. Manna

for today. 

Febrifuge, Train from NYC to NJ, February 25 2020

No more
confidence in healing. In my own
talent to stay calm. I have worked
myself ill. Awake when every inch
needs rest, for thinking.
And have not remembered -
                          I am held. Every hair,
counted. Numbered and loved,
despite my brittle.

It is infectious, she said, as panic:  peace.

Only surrendered am I free.
Our bodies on the subway sway,
sweating under coats,
are rocking, looking down, mouths covered,
hooded, close. Barely brushing the sleeve,
immortal soul.

Meeting eyes in reflections, fluorescence.
Puddles in the corners,
urine, tar, and rain.
Leeching our fear and reverence. Father.
Unapproachable or so tender.

If we all were weeds,
growing green in the chinks,
we would be crushed. But we
would split the rock. 

Sunday, March 15, 2020

Victory is Yours, December 27 2019

You are trustworthy. You do not make mistakes. Our times are in Your hands. You will care for us and provide for us, You will not leave us as orphans, You will come to us.
In whatever ways it is time for me to grow up, please grow me up. Please show me my sin, so that You and I can deal with it. Please forgive me my trespasses. Protect me from rash actions and words. Protect me from passivity and from aggression. Make me a woman of truth, grace, and action. Confront the lies in my mind. Cover over all wrongs with love.
How does a person feel safe again? How do I come to grips with reality, with how easily I hurt others? Who can counsel me? Help me not to run away. Help me not to be afraid. Satan has not won the victory. Victory is Yours, Jesus. 

To Jesus, on Self-sacrifice, December 22 2019

I cringe when I hear the call to love and worship God because He sacrificed His Son for me. The more we call You God's beloved, only begotten Son, and not GOD YOURSELF with a CHOICE and WILL and DETERMINATION TO GIVE YOURSELF, it sounds like something sadistic, that no sane, loving person would want. You want to kill your Son for me? No thanks. For goodness' sake, why this bloodthirstiness? Sounds like a psycho lover threatening to do harm if you don't love him back. Or as absurd as someone saying, "I'll murder my son and then you can use his tickets to Europe - aren't you going to thank me?"
Of course this isn't our position in the situation at all, but how does it make sense to outsiders? If there's no understanding of the deep divide of sin, the impossibility of human reparation, the SELF sacrifice of God, it sounds so twisted.
Please confirm, cement, the TRUTH spoken today. 

Naming Sin, Prayer for Kanye, Communion of Saints, December 16 2019

Please keep helping us all to make room. I fall short in every way, as I read Matthew 5. I want to know You and know Your heart so intimately, and let Your difficult and "impossible" words form me and chafe me and feed me. I am absolutely Yours, and if I must become odd, so be it.
Living above reproach used to seem possible. I guess I figured, "against such things there is no law". That loving You and doing good would ultimately win people over. But these days, if you name sin like John, you may lose your head. You may be labelled a hater, intolerant, judgmental, proud, ignorant, repressive! And I don't see a way out of all that.

Listened to a few Kanye songs today. What surprised me most - they weren't that amazing. I mean, they were refreshing, coming from him, but I've heard better rap. Please keep him as the apple of Your eye. Bless and protect him, humble him, encourage him, give him joy, give him purpose and insight. Help him to be obedient and faithful. Help him to hold himself before Your Word, and to keep in fellowship.

Thank You that even in my very off, very gray days, I get the privilege of union with You and communion with Your saints. 

Tied to Your Apron Strings, December 15 2019

I want to be like George MacDonald's characters, able to obey and trust the right always. Like Betsy ten Boom.
But I don't need any more idols or heroes, I need You.

Please guide these next few days. None of this matters without love.
And please, help me hear and obey Your Word, Your Spirit, and allow moods to swing but truth to remain constant. I can't let the birds nest in my hair. Be they bitterness, doubt, gossip, insecurities, lust, pride. Catch 'em all. And set me in a place of real safety, and real work and engagement (not passivity), and real blessing. Let me bless others abundantly, and point them toward You.
Please keep me humble and tied to Your apron strings.

Monday, February 3, 2020

Trust, January 30 2020

Trust is when a friend sends a poem unchaperoned
in the mail. When my brother sends me coffee beans
that fell on the street
when he was hit
by a truck;
the bag still plastered
with ground beef
and onions.

It is my Mom
telling me nothing in particular,
or something she told me before,
because I won't mind.
It is a phone call, not a text.
It is a text, not silence.
It is silence, not piffle
just to keep up the talk.

Trust is saying, "God" when there are no words to follow:
nothing to ask, no reproach,
no relief, no clarity.
Only the certainty
that I must look
in the right direction.